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Manitou Messenger: Bonding over brunch: Mothers, daughters reflect on relationship

Bonding over brunch: Mothers, daughters reflect on relationship

By Rachel Westberg
Contributing Writer
Friday, May 7, 2004

Every spring for one weekend, the St. Olaf women students have the opportunity to share their experiences with their mothers as they gather for the annual Student Activities Committee (SAC)- sponsored Mother/Daughter banquet, held last weekend.

Following a reception in the Valhalla room in Buntrock Commons, mothers and daughters were treated to an elegant meal and a short speech in the Black and Gold Ballroom.

Karen Gervais, professor of philosophy, and Angela Goehring, international student advisor, spoke about their mother/daughter relationships at the Saturday dinner and Sunday brunch, respectively.

During the Saturday luncheon, Kathy Ruby, director of financial aid, spoke about her relationship with her mother and daughter. Rubys mother maintained her strength through the many ups and downs of her life.

"She always was doing the best she could with the cards she was dealt," Ruby said.

Ruby hopes to pass what she learned from her mother and grandmother on to her daughter. "I tried to take time to find the things in my mom and grandmas relationship to carry on to her," Ruby said.

The banquet provides time to reflect and celebrate on the mother/daughter relationship.

"Its nice to have a reason to get together, rather than just going to Target," said Mary Strampe, mother of Marie Strampe 07.

For many mothers and daughters, the banquet becomes a special time to celebrate their relationship. "Its a good chance to be with my mother," Jennifer Kochsiek '05 said. "Mothers and daughters have a special relationship."

Mothers also appreciate the extra opportunity to come to St. Olaf. "Its wonderful to celebrate the mother and daughter relationship. To be a guest and be treated so lovely is such a treat," said Peggy Hanson, mother of Christine Hanson 06.

Mothers have the opportunity to spend time with their daughters, see their friends and hear faculty and staff speak in a way that pertains especially to their relationship.

"There arent many opportunities to come to St. Olaf that are this formal. It's nice to meet other mothers and hear the faculty as they to us," Marilyn Kochsiek, mother of Jennifer said.

For mothers of seniors, it is a chance to be together one last time before their daughter graduates. "Its nice to be with our daughters before they leave the Hill," said Mary Jo Hallberg, mother of Katie Hallberg 04. "Its nice to set up something where you can simply hang out with Mom for awhile," Katie added.

Often, the banquet becomes a full weekend for mothers and daughters to bond. Many took advantage of other activities that occurred this weekend, including movies, concerts and chapel.

Most agree that the entire weekend is a special time to celebrate the often complex relationship between mothers and daughters. It becomes a fancy, formal event that enables mothers and daughters to spend time together in a special setting that celebrates their unique bond.

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